Living with SELF…

self-reflection

“”Human self-reflection is the capacity of humans to exercise introspection and the willingness to learn more about their fundamental nature, purpose and essence. The earliest historical records demonstrate the great interest which humanity has had in itself. Human self-reflection invariably leads to inquiry into the human condition and the essence of humankind as a whole.

Human self-reflection is related to the philosophy of consciousness, the topic of awareness, consciousness in general and the philosophy of mind…”

WHAT ABOUT TALKING ABOUT OWN SELF AS “HIM/HER/THEM” … ?

WHAT ABOUT THE IDEA OF A “GROUP OF PERSONALITIES” THAT LIVE WITH?…

self-reflection-steven-michaelInstead of being just one single person living in a body,

we are always talking about our other sides according in situtions that we have to handle….

We generally have two main faces: one with heart and one with brain; which describes our emotional side -emotional reactions- and our logical point of  view -mental bottom lines-.

Furthermore,

we have always an explanation for both ways…

But how we build up our definitions on ourselves?

or

why we need to define different personalities of ourselves?

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Answer is simple: we live against our ownselves, with no inner acceptance of being “me”.

and

we need someone to blame accordingly…

Knowing the possible choices, remembering the past, paying still our old bills, never forgetting or forgiving our own mistakes…

Also a “self-proving” that we are alone in the world – especially if we had a bad childhood under the name of “having no friends”-…

Admit that you talk to yourself when you are alone in your car or house or even walking in a park.

You keep track of what you are always doing or thinking.

Sometimes you are not  good enough to listen to your own thoughts and wishes, so you start to talk to God.

ADMIT IT.

THAT’S BEING HUMAN.

NOT WANTING TO WALK ALONE…

That need of yours empowers your self realization, awareness and explanations.

And you know so perfectly that you are the cruelest judge of the world; you don’t accept any defense or apology.

BUT PLEASE GET USED TO LIVE WITH YOURSELF BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE TO ENJOY.

matc3adas-sierra-hug-my-self-red-clay-10All actions belong to you. All feelings and wishes came from your heart. All your past gave you an unique lesson, you failed or succeeded. If you feel failed TRY AGAIN.

NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF.

AND…

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PLEASE DO NOT LET “BEING AWARE OF YOURSELF” LEAVE YOU ALONE.

Prisons

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The prison that is the most difficult to be released from is that of one’s own made. It imprisons one to such depths that one may forget how he or she had actually entered. Whilst passing the time with strong but silent shouts, one day and quite suddenly, one realizes that this dungeon was the created by one’s own walls…

 

All restrictions are self-made and all are for one’s own self. 

There, one can neither manage to leave nor can one allow others in.

The worst part is chasing all those who wish to love one, and keeping all those outside whom one loves… 

Desperation arrives just at that moment, the moment when one realizes that this is a a system and not a vacation.

People have their own lies within their own prisons. 

One does not make unclear apologies or create defenses for one’s self; one has already made clear explanations within one’s heart. 

Epitome: destiny… 

Destiny is the only salvation through one’s imprisonment. 

IF THEY ARE NOT THE CAUSE OF THIS DEFEAT, THE PRICE IS NOT A PUNISHMENT BUT THE “FATE”.

However, in one’s life journey, there are no simple processes which may be simplified as destiny. The “learned helplessness” of devastating defeats may not be simplified as coincidences…

When all is processing with perfect harmony with each other in a flow, one single stone does fall on one’s path and turns upside down all the balances that one had created meticulously.

One is not forced to start a new life with every stone that one stumbles on…

 

“TO RISE WITH THE LARK”

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To get up early is so beautiful when it is not an obligation…

To rise early not out of necessity, but as a habit, and accepting this as the most important start of life, to give shape to the days accordingly…

If one loves to start a day,

One will feel the beauty of being alive unexceptionally and trustingly…

Human beings are actually encoded in an archaic system from those days when one left his cave with the sun rise. This coding is still active. More importantly, for all those people who complian for not having enough time to accomplish things, to rise early is the definitive solution. “Early” meaning TO RISE WITH THE LARK.

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Nothing is more “human” than coming into action with the first rays of the sun.

One feels the state of belonging to the nature and grasps this belonging so clearly!

I advise all those people who falsely think themselves incapable of waking up in a vigorous state, that they should readjust their movements to the “sundial”. This means returning home when the sun is setting, sleeping accompanied by the stars and becoming aware of the quilt not as a warm escapade but as a heavy cover…

Although the present habit has become to start the day with an alarm clock, leaving this imprisonment, this authority of time over us, and returning to the archaic rhythm of cohabitation of humans with nature is my dream. Just like what I am experiencing lately…

Because human beings have been taught to memorize everything within structures, I feel that these structures have become our own burdens.

When the alarm rings and its awful sound disturb one’s peace, the meaning of waking up to a new beginning is changed.

I propose that we should not be at peace with the alarm clock, set it right and wake up under its command.

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I suggest and I offer the sunny radiance of not having a clock.  If not on the first morning, surely on the next days, waking with the rhythm of the nature without any alarm clock buzzing its way through the ears and into the brain will be welcome by your inner self; it will become a new pleasure in your life, rebelling against the resistant and tough fixity of imprisonment that life has forced you and enjoying a flexibility, a freedom however tiny it may seem at first!

SHARE HAPPINESS AND LOVE THAT YOU HAVE INSIDE

tumblr_mfehprnANV1rs9omco1_500No matter how far away we fall from our dreams,

God gives us another day with a full brightening landscape for our souls, just to make sure that we are going to try again.

..and again..and again…

There will be no limit to try for our goals in order to find our happiness.

We are the only creatures knowing the meaning of it. We are the ones who can describe it even with the many different vocabulary but still using happiness as a life adaptor.

Happiness is a connection between a soul and the life of its. It’s something more necessary than other cliches.

Because we all know that ‘staying alive’ will not be enough to ‘feel alive’.

Many people coming from many different backgrounds; wll still defend their own happy moments in ordar to describe how they feel in a new stituation whilw meeting each other.

It can look like a pschological experiment but it is true that when you are unconfortable in a position; you will automaticly remember your happy memories to survive there.

happinessIMAGEEven that coffe in the morning or your breakfast with your family will be rapidly becoming your last precious moments in your life with no background stiories that you had too tho.

In any moment that you feel unconfortable within, your brain will collobarate in the same path remindering you how happy you were before.

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Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging fromcontentment to intense joy.

A variety ofbiological, psychological,religious and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources.

Various research groups, including positive psychology,

endeavor to apply the scientific method to answer questions about what “happiness” is, and how it might be attained.

Philosophers and religious thinkers often define happiness in terms of living a good life, or flourishing,

rather than simply as an emotion. Happiness in this sense was used to translate the Greek Eudaimonia,

and is still used in virtue ethics.

Happiness economics suggests that measures of public happiness

should be used to supplement more traditional economic measures when evaluating the success of public policy.

Even though there are many scientific explanations about happiness itself;

we should be just aware of its being a God-given gift,

and it is also about appreciating ‘good’ moments that we have in your lives…

love-happiness-girl-heart-valentines-1920x1200We have so much love we have in our souls. We need to share it as much as we can too.

Remember when you step by a street worker, saying him just a little ‘Hi!…

You would be able to see him happier then that one minute ago.

This is simply ‘HAPPINESS’…

WHICH I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT JUST LOVE AFFAIRS AND SUCH.

I’M TALKIN ABOUT LOVING YOUR “CO-LIVER”, THAT YOU DONT EVEN KNOW MANY OF THEM PERSONALLY…

I’M TALKIN ABOUT SHARING HAPPINESS WITHOUT WAITING A BAD TIME COMES TO MAKE YOU REMEMBER HOW HAPPY YOU WERE BEFORE…

6418B36294E4419DAAFEC15E6F03BC57.ashxTODAY CAN BE THAT DAY YOU REALIZE AND YOU FEEL HOW HAPPY YOU ARE;

AND HOW MUCH HAPPINES YOU HAVE INSIDE

AND YOU ARE ABLE TO SHARE WITH ALL PEOPLE AROUND.

Just like an angel comes and shows…

Bacuse we all know that motivation makes life easier;

Motivations direct and energize behavior, while emotions provide the affective component to motivation, positive or negative.

In the early 1970s, Paul Ekman and colleagues began a line of research that suggests that many emotions are universal.

He found evidence that humans share at least five basic emotions: fear, sadness, HAPPINESS, anger, and disgust.

Social emotions evidently evolved to motivate social behaviors that were adaptive in the EEA.

For example, spite seems to work against the individual but it can establish an individual’s reputation as someone to be feared.

Shame and pride can motivate behaviors that help one maintain one’s standing in a community, and self-esteem is one’s estimate of one’s status.

CONNECT to LIFE

206821_1996858409524_1485397876_2297753_1127141_nSome mornings I miss my childhood or maybe even my whole life before “technology” so much;

living with no attachment to the machines like computers, cellphones or even internet…

I miss those times especially when the first thing I have to do is to check my e-mails,

writing notes down on my agenda, and to decide how I’m going to use my day planning by every single hour that I have.

Having no coincidences and suprises in my daily life is breaking me apart…

The hurting part is not living with deadlines or hurry;

just this slavery to our computers and smartphones that we have.

Being unable to use and feel the time and being totally away from that talent ‘to keep in mind’ what we have to do.

Most of my friends forgot to use an agenda; they lost their understanding of calendar and time because of their smartphones.

Life became something that when you hear an alarm informing  you… Something that we connect instead of live it…

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Watches are becoming useless and mostly unimportant to have,

or just a symbol of wealth instead of being masters of ‘time’; they loose their meaning day  by day,

because people prefers to check their smartphones and they trust them more than anything else.

watchSo companies try different and joyful ways to make us remember the meaning of watches.

But even they know that watch means ‘money’ not time anymore…

Same issue is a problem also with agendas and such…

agenda1I remember the days that people were so excited to buy a brand new agenda each year. 

The importance of the papers quality, the joy to write things down…

“trusting to your own handwriting and trying to write as good as you can”…

In those days, your agenda was your symbol of your charactesrand anything to note down was important.

For example we used to take notes about our friends birthdays, we were checking the days, counting them, waiting for them with no alert needed.

Honestly, I still keep an agenda and I still wear my watches; I still love papers and pencils. But I think each day I’m becoming more “extinct”.

Everyone is asking me ‘why’ I still buy them or use them as we have our cellphones and so on instead…

And my answer is:

I prefer being as human as I can 🙂

I PREFER TO LIVE, INSTEAD OF TO CONNECT TO LIFE.

LUCK AND HAPPINESS


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A person should create his own sun in the cloudy days.

One should fight for happiness without giving in to demoralization, without losing his hope.

To bow to pressure in silence increases the pain and sorrow in the end…

 

Not everyone is born in the same plain with the same luck.

But what does luck mean in the final analysis?

Happiness does not necessarily increase when one is born among gold;

nor may making a quilt of newspapers on one’s self necessarily cause unhappiness.

Money does not make a person more alive.

Then what does it mean to be fortunate?

Apart from the assumptions of having wealth or a family, what makes one more fortunate than the other?

Us, our own selves… Being who we are.

 

How developed is our ability to challenge problems or our view of life.

For someone who has lost his car, enjoying a walk without missing the vehicle may show how lucky he is in his personality.

For some person with disability, the determination to learn playing basketball on a wheelchair

or simply the ambition to cling to life, we can talk of having a fortunate presence in life.

When we become invincible, life gives us choices.

To learn to be alive without burying one’s elf in darkness is a must.

Otherwise we lose our colors in darkness.

 

Being a child means imagination and perseverance. Desperation is not inborn,

it is learned during growing up; desperation is the only sign of aging.

We forget how the very small things can create great contentment.

For how many of us is cotton candy a fountain of joy?

Aging is seeing only mud on a rainy day;

Lucky are those who will watch the rain drops!

Still..

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i passed through many lifes till now
i dreamed i failed and i walked again
but i loved and listened to my heart eventually
we were never wrong and never hurt anyone

i was born in cold winter when snow was dancing
that was our first fight against nature we belong
never stopped living and none back off by crying
waited to be loved so long

life never became easier while i was growing
i used to be forgotten in dark eras come along
so my heart helped me believing in being no alone
we made choices in each step that we called strong

too much sun and too much moon we shared
questioning each loneliness that we had
but loved anyway without any question in our head
sometimes they hurt us its true
but sometimes we had seen love coming from them

no prescription was given to make it easier
we tried each and every single soul we met
while years were passing by
we stayed stick our in hope for to be loved

then we met with one special soul sliding through worlds misery
we were the only ones seeing his beauty in any sentence he speaks
we wished for his dreams come through and sharing his destiny
we felt that so much pain had been broken his wings
but we believed that he was still able to fly

we questioned what could be done eventually
but he was not ready to believe in a new reality
love was not enough for make him feel alive properly
there was always something making him cry silently

nothing was good enough to make him believe in a brand new episode
a great and a joyfull era crossing his mirrors which belong his lost
his potential was kept in secret for many years which he passed alone
noone was able to feel him deeper inside as he needed for

but
we still keep watching him in the dark streets of his broken heart
we still believe in his success coming by his clarifying his view
and
we still love him no matter how far he can be burned by himself in his artificial penalty.

Emine Yesim Aydin

IN THE NAME OF UNCONDITIONALITY

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 I am not suggesting a world of equality for everyone; I am, however, imagining a world of my own in which everyone will be loved equally.

A dream world where there are no prejudices… I dream of people loving each other as innocently as the animals do…

A world, for example, where races are intermixed but not mixed with prejudices; a world of pure love…

I wish to meet other  people with no consideration on neither part with regard to color or voice.

I am not in pursuing full agreement between people; it is enough to be at that point of trying to understand.

I wish that two strangers greet each other when passing by each other.

I dream of lives being as simple as just expressing a wish from the other.

Not even words have to be spoken; a simple movement of the head being understood fully by the other.

Agreement is not important; understanding is my dream…   

The world in which we live at present saddens me unwillingly.

The crowds passing by a fallen person on the street with unseeing eyes fills my heart with pain.

I am rebelling against this post-modern negligence of the other. Is it difficult to love the world and other human beings unconditionally?..

Is it that hard to show and to share love and respect?

Documentaries share with us the sacrificing relations among multitudes of animals; why should such a treasure not be shared among the humans of this world?

When did we become so egocentric? When was it that we started to lose emotions?…

Why should it be a burden on the shoulders to give a little smile and create even the tiniest joy in another’s life?..

When did we lose politeness? When did we get so silent and started to live in little personal boxes?

When was it that reactions only surfaced for only material interests?

When was it that cooperating and sharing with others became so impossible?

When did we forget that we belonged to the nature and remained silent when trees were replaced by tall buildings?

And did this alienation start? How did we allow ourselves to ride the same elevators without recognizing the neighbors?

There is a deep silence among all the noise of this world…

Everyone is talking now but nobody hears the other…

 

I humbly suggest and wish that we make a difference today :

Smile at someone passing by you on the street, thank with all sincerity to the janitor collecting your waste bin, sit near someone on a bench and say hello to him…

I wish that you make a difference today: give a piece of your toast to a street cat and pat him, or pat the head of a dog for no reason at all…

Feel yourself alive and all those around you feel the same…

Make a difference and feel the unconditionality of life and breathe!

IF YOU HAD KNOWN ME…

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If you had known me you would have remained silent when I was screaming

If at first you would not understand or even fear, then you would certainly come near

You would reach out to embrace me but then burn in my cold

Then maybe you would listen or maybe you would reproach

Still you would wish to hear

But I did not know myself what to say what to show

Sometimes mornings do not bring the sun and sometimes the nights do not darken in my life

My feelings contradicting each other, my heart stops in silence

You would not understand and you would be afraid…

Sometimes you would rejoice at having known me

Sometimes you would cry for not having yet understood

 

Feeling me near you when I was not there

Catching my absence when I was indeed there

You did not wish to move back and pushed the time instead ahead

Then seeing my captivity in my errors

You would also question life

Did you understand, probably not

Did you feel, probably yes

If you ask me if I would be sure

I would tell you that nothing in life is reflected from its definition

The expressions which you have brought up

would sometimes remain in the shade and be cold

or would sometimes be left under the sun and fade, I would say.

Neither would you rest against me and find comfort

Nor would I trust you and find love

Beginning of FREEDOM

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Freedom is hidden within one’s self…

To grasp that feeling without searching the definitions in the philosophies, one should look at the mirror.

Freedom does not arrive without sweeping away the wounds of the consciousness initially.

One can not hear the voice of freedom without silencing the noise of life…

One needs to free herself from the scars, the chains and the connections of all painful experiences and even the shades of happy times…

It is not as simple as learning to live in the moment. Nevertheless, we need to understand the moment; t

he causes, the consequences should be taken away from the burdens which still lie silently over the shoulders, placing these into the deep chests of the heart…

Only then can the soul find a vast landscape to gaze into.

Even if we still carry the smells of all people we have known, the streets we have crossed, as they are now wide away and hands can no longer reach them, we can relax and think “so all that was meant to be experienced”.

People have entered our lives for a reason or for a season, and so it is…

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Everyone and every event has a reason embedded deep within…

One should start with forgiving herself and never regret the experiences;

then one should accept and forgive all the guests who have visited one’s life, breaking down all judgments and all the feelings of blame…

Life is not lived once actually…

Every morning is the beginning of the new life.

Every new sun is born for new expectations

and God gives one a new chance to anyone who wishes to practice the lessons learned so far…

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Tomorrow when you wake up, you will have the notes you have taken in the classes of life;

You will have the experiences you have saved,

You will see with eyes shining with a deeper attention.

TOMORROW LIFE WILL START FOR YOU ONCE AGAIN…

ALL YOU NEED IS TO FORGIVE YOURSELF IF STILL FEELING GUILTY

AND

EXCUSE ALL EXPERIENCES IF YOU ARE STILL BLAMING YOUR HISTORY…