Prisons

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The prison that is the most difficult to be released from is that of one’s own made. It imprisons one to such depths that one may forget how he or she had actually entered. Whilst passing the time with strong but silent shouts, one day and quite suddenly, one realizes that this dungeon was the created by one’s own walls…

 

All restrictions are self-made and all are for one’s own self. 

There, one can neither manage to leave nor can one allow others in.

The worst part is chasing all those who wish to love one, and keeping all those outside whom one loves… 

Desperation arrives just at that moment, the moment when one realizes that this is a a system and not a vacation.

People have their own lies within their own prisons. 

One does not make unclear apologies or create defenses for one’s self; one has already made clear explanations within one’s heart. 

Epitome: destiny… 

Destiny is the only salvation through one’s imprisonment. 

IF THEY ARE NOT THE CAUSE OF THIS DEFEAT, THE PRICE IS NOT A PUNISHMENT BUT THE “FATE”.

However, in one’s life journey, there are no simple processes which may be simplified as destiny. The “learned helplessness” of devastating defeats may not be simplified as coincidences…

When all is processing with perfect harmony with each other in a flow, one single stone does fall on one’s path and turns upside down all the balances that one had created meticulously.

One is not forced to start a new life with every stone that one stumbles on…

 

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“TO RISE WITH THE LARK”

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To get up early is so beautiful when it is not an obligation…

To rise early not out of necessity, but as a habit, and accepting this as the most important start of life, to give shape to the days accordingly…

If one loves to start a day,

One will feel the beauty of being alive unexceptionally and trustingly…

Human beings are actually encoded in an archaic system from those days when one left his cave with the sun rise. This coding is still active. More importantly, for all those people who complian for not having enough time to accomplish things, to rise early is the definitive solution. “Early” meaning TO RISE WITH THE LARK.

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Nothing is more “human” than coming into action with the first rays of the sun.

One feels the state of belonging to the nature and grasps this belonging so clearly!

I advise all those people who falsely think themselves incapable of waking up in a vigorous state, that they should readjust their movements to the “sundial”. This means returning home when the sun is setting, sleeping accompanied by the stars and becoming aware of the quilt not as a warm escapade but as a heavy cover…

Although the present habit has become to start the day with an alarm clock, leaving this imprisonment, this authority of time over us, and returning to the archaic rhythm of cohabitation of humans with nature is my dream. Just like what I am experiencing lately…

Because human beings have been taught to memorize everything within structures, I feel that these structures have become our own burdens.

When the alarm rings and its awful sound disturb one’s peace, the meaning of waking up to a new beginning is changed.

I propose that we should not be at peace with the alarm clock, set it right and wake up under its command.

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I suggest and I offer the sunny radiance of not having a clock.  If not on the first morning, surely on the next days, waking with the rhythm of the nature without any alarm clock buzzing its way through the ears and into the brain will be welcome by your inner self; it will become a new pleasure in your life, rebelling against the resistant and tough fixity of imprisonment that life has forced you and enjoying a flexibility, a freedom however tiny it may seem at first!

SHARE HAPPINESS AND LOVE THAT YOU HAVE INSIDE

tumblr_mfehprnANV1rs9omco1_500No matter how far away we fall from our dreams,

God gives us another day with a full brightening landscape for our souls, just to make sure that we are going to try again.

..and again..and again…

There will be no limit to try for our goals in order to find our happiness.

We are the only creatures knowing the meaning of it. We are the ones who can describe it even with the many different vocabulary but still using happiness as a life adaptor.

Happiness is a connection between a soul and the life of its. It’s something more necessary than other cliches.

Because we all know that ‘staying alive’ will not be enough to ‘feel alive’.

Many people coming from many different backgrounds; wll still defend their own happy moments in ordar to describe how they feel in a new stituation whilw meeting each other.

It can look like a pschological experiment but it is true that when you are unconfortable in a position; you will automaticly remember your happy memories to survive there.

happinessIMAGEEven that coffe in the morning or your breakfast with your family will be rapidly becoming your last precious moments in your life with no background stiories that you had too tho.

In any moment that you feel unconfortable within, your brain will collobarate in the same path remindering you how happy you were before.

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Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging fromcontentment to intense joy.

A variety ofbiological, psychological,religious and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources.

Various research groups, including positive psychology,

endeavor to apply the scientific method to answer questions about what “happiness” is, and how it might be attained.

Philosophers and religious thinkers often define happiness in terms of living a good life, or flourishing,

rather than simply as an emotion. Happiness in this sense was used to translate the Greek Eudaimonia,

and is still used in virtue ethics.

Happiness economics suggests that measures of public happiness

should be used to supplement more traditional economic measures when evaluating the success of public policy.

Even though there are many scientific explanations about happiness itself;

we should be just aware of its being a God-given gift,

and it is also about appreciating ‘good’ moments that we have in your lives…

love-happiness-girl-heart-valentines-1920x1200We have so much love we have in our souls. We need to share it as much as we can too.

Remember when you step by a street worker, saying him just a little ‘Hi!…

You would be able to see him happier then that one minute ago.

This is simply ‘HAPPINESS’…

WHICH I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT JUST LOVE AFFAIRS AND SUCH.

I’M TALKIN ABOUT LOVING YOUR “CO-LIVER”, THAT YOU DONT EVEN KNOW MANY OF THEM PERSONALLY…

I’M TALKIN ABOUT SHARING HAPPINESS WITHOUT WAITING A BAD TIME COMES TO MAKE YOU REMEMBER HOW HAPPY YOU WERE BEFORE…

6418B36294E4419DAAFEC15E6F03BC57.ashxTODAY CAN BE THAT DAY YOU REALIZE AND YOU FEEL HOW HAPPY YOU ARE;

AND HOW MUCH HAPPINES YOU HAVE INSIDE

AND YOU ARE ABLE TO SHARE WITH ALL PEOPLE AROUND.

Just like an angel comes and shows…

Bacuse we all know that motivation makes life easier;

Motivations direct and energize behavior, while emotions provide the affective component to motivation, positive or negative.

In the early 1970s, Paul Ekman and colleagues began a line of research that suggests that many emotions are universal.

He found evidence that humans share at least five basic emotions: fear, sadness, HAPPINESS, anger, and disgust.

Social emotions evidently evolved to motivate social behaviors that were adaptive in the EEA.

For example, spite seems to work against the individual but it can establish an individual’s reputation as someone to be feared.

Shame and pride can motivate behaviors that help one maintain one’s standing in a community, and self-esteem is one’s estimate of one’s status.

Being HAPPY and Living LIKE A CHILD

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Psychologist divide our life in periods calling them ‘critical periods in development’:

*Toddlerhood:

 

Babies between ages of one and two are called toddlers. In this stage, intelligence is demonstrated through the use of symbols, language use matures, and memory and imagination are developed. Thinking is done in a non-logical, nonreversible manner. Egocentric thinking predominates.

*Early childhood:

When children attend preschool, they broaden their social horizons and become more engaged with those around them. Impulses are channeled into fantasies, which leaves the task of the caretaker to balance eagerness for pursuing adventure, creativity and self-expression with the development of responsibility. If caretakers are properly encouraging and consistently disciplinary, children are more likely to develop positive self-esteem while becoming more responsible, and will follow through on assigned activities.

*Adolescence:

Adolescence is the period of life between the onset of puberty and the full commitment to an adult social role, such as worker, parent, and/or citizen. It is the period known for the formation of personal and social identity and the discovery of moral purpose. Intelligence is demonstrated through the logical use of symbols related to abstract concepts and formal reasoning. A return to egocentric thought often occurs early in the period.

*Early adulthood:

The person must learn how to form intimate relationships, both in friendship and love. The development of this skill relies on the resolution of other stages. It may be hard to establish intimacy if one has not developed trust or a sense of identity. If this skill is not learned the alternative is alienation, isolation, a fear of commitment, and the inability to depend on others.

*Middle age:

Middle adulthood generally refers to the period between ages 40 to 60. During this period, middle-aged adults experience a conflict between generativity and stagnation. They may either feel a sense of contributing to society, the next generation or their immediate community or a sense of purposelessness.

*Old age:

This stage generally refers to those over 60–100 years. According to Erikson’s Theory of Psychosocial Development, old age is the stage in which individuals assess the quality of their lives. In reflecting on their lives, people in this age group develop a feeling of integrity if deciding that their lives were successful or a feeling of despair if evaluation of one’s life indicates a failure to achieve goals.

BUT WHAT ABOUT SEEING THESE ADULTS PLAYING AS CHILDREN AND BEING FREE MINDED AND ACTING FREE…

That’s the definition of happiness:

breaking all the rules that we have been learned by our social interactions

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becoming ageless.

Even if we live in a physical world and getting older in a physical meaning;

we actually belong to an emotional world which our thoughts about ages don’t count. We are basicly free to shape our lives without thinking and also blaming our age.

There is no calendar of feelings.

There is no boundaries and rules.

In psychology, Adler became famous by his definitions that he gave:

Adler refused to limit psychology to analysis, making the important point that aspirations look forward and do not limit themselves to unconscious drives or to childhood experiences. He also originated the concepts of lifestyle (1929 — he defined “lifestyle” as an individual’s characteristic approach to life, in facing problems) and of self-image, a concept that influenced management under the heading of work-life balance.

Carl Gustav Jung made contributions to personal development with his concept of individuation, which he saw as the drive of the individual to achieve the wholeness and balance of the Self.

Whatever the nature of his Dream, a young man has the developmental task of giving it greater definition and finding ways to live it out. It makes a great difference in his growth whether his initial life structure is consonant with and infused by the Dream, or opposed to it. If the Dream remains unconnected to his life it may simply die, and with it his sense of aliveness and purpose.

All theoretical and scientific explanations stop in a point that:

LIFE BELONGS US.

WE SHAPE OUR LIVES.

WE SHAPE OUR AGES.

AND BEING HAPPY IS TOTALLY RELATED TO OUR OWN PERSPECTIVE OF LIFE.

If you don’t have (or even if you have) physical disabilities; WALK-RUN-JUMP AND LAUGH ENOUGH TO HEAR YOUR SOUL.

SNOW AND SUN, RAIN AND WIND are just for us. All we have to do is having fun of them with no thinking about our age.

I don’t tell you to act like children:

I suggest you TO FEEL AND BE HAPPY LIKE CHILDREN.

 

LUCK AND HAPPINESS


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A person should create his own sun in the cloudy days.

One should fight for happiness without giving in to demoralization, without losing his hope.

To bow to pressure in silence increases the pain and sorrow in the end…

 

Not everyone is born in the same plain with the same luck.

But what does luck mean in the final analysis?

Happiness does not necessarily increase when one is born among gold;

nor may making a quilt of newspapers on one’s self necessarily cause unhappiness.

Money does not make a person more alive.

Then what does it mean to be fortunate?

Apart from the assumptions of having wealth or a family, what makes one more fortunate than the other?

Us, our own selves… Being who we are.

 

How developed is our ability to challenge problems or our view of life.

For someone who has lost his car, enjoying a walk without missing the vehicle may show how lucky he is in his personality.

For some person with disability, the determination to learn playing basketball on a wheelchair

or simply the ambition to cling to life, we can talk of having a fortunate presence in life.

When we become invincible, life gives us choices.

To learn to be alive without burying one’s elf in darkness is a must.

Otherwise we lose our colors in darkness.

 

Being a child means imagination and perseverance. Desperation is not inborn,

it is learned during growing up; desperation is the only sign of aging.

We forget how the very small things can create great contentment.

For how many of us is cotton candy a fountain of joy?

Aging is seeing only mud on a rainy day;

Lucky are those who will watch the rain drops!