CONNECT to LIFE

206821_1996858409524_1485397876_2297753_1127141_nSome mornings I miss my childhood or maybe even my whole life before “technology” so much;

living with no attachment to the machines like computers, cellphones or even internet…

I miss those times especially when the first thing I have to do is to check my e-mails,

writing notes down on my agenda, and to decide how I’m going to use my day planning by every single hour that I have.

Having no coincidences and suprises in my daily life is breaking me apart…

The hurting part is not living with deadlines or hurry;

just this slavery to our computers and smartphones that we have.

Being unable to use and feel the time and being totally away from that talent ‘to keep in mind’ what we have to do.

Most of my friends forgot to use an agenda; they lost their understanding of calendar and time because of their smartphones.

Life became something that when you hear an alarm informing  you… Something that we connect instead of live it…

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Watches are becoming useless and mostly unimportant to have,

or just a symbol of wealth instead of being masters of ‘time’; they loose their meaning day  by day,

because people prefers to check their smartphones and they trust them more than anything else.

watchSo companies try different and joyful ways to make us remember the meaning of watches.

But even they know that watch means ‘money’ not time anymore…

Same issue is a problem also with agendas and such…

agenda1I remember the days that people were so excited to buy a brand new agenda each year. 

The importance of the papers quality, the joy to write things down…

“trusting to your own handwriting and trying to write as good as you can”…

In those days, your agenda was your symbol of your charactesrand anything to note down was important.

For example we used to take notes about our friends birthdays, we were checking the days, counting them, waiting for them with no alert needed.

Honestly, I still keep an agenda and I still wear my watches; I still love papers and pencils. But I think each day I’m becoming more “extinct”.

Everyone is asking me ‘why’ I still buy them or use them as we have our cellphones and so on instead…

And my answer is:

I prefer being as human as I can 🙂

I PREFER TO LIVE, INSTEAD OF TO CONNECT TO LIFE.

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Being HAPPY and Living LIKE A CHILD

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Psychologist divide our life in periods calling them ‘critical periods in development’:

*Toddlerhood:

 

Babies between ages of one and two are called toddlers. In this stage, intelligence is demonstrated through the use of symbols, language use matures, and memory and imagination are developed. Thinking is done in a non-logical, nonreversible manner. Egocentric thinking predominates.

*Early childhood:

When children attend preschool, they broaden their social horizons and become more engaged with those around them. Impulses are channeled into fantasies, which leaves the task of the caretaker to balance eagerness for pursuing adventure, creativity and self-expression with the development of responsibility. If caretakers are properly encouraging and consistently disciplinary, children are more likely to develop positive self-esteem while becoming more responsible, and will follow through on assigned activities.

*Adolescence:

Adolescence is the period of life between the onset of puberty and the full commitment to an adult social role, such as worker, parent, and/or citizen. It is the period known for the formation of personal and social identity and the discovery of moral purpose. Intelligence is demonstrated through the logical use of symbols related to abstract concepts and formal reasoning. A return to egocentric thought often occurs early in the period.

*Early adulthood:

The person must learn how to form intimate relationships, both in friendship and love. The development of this skill relies on the resolution of other stages. It may be hard to establish intimacy if one has not developed trust or a sense of identity. If this skill is not learned the alternative is alienation, isolation, a fear of commitment, and the inability to depend on others.

*Middle age:

Middle adulthood generally refers to the period between ages 40 to 60. During this period, middle-aged adults experience a conflict between generativity and stagnation. They may either feel a sense of contributing to society, the next generation or their immediate community or a sense of purposelessness.

*Old age:

This stage generally refers to those over 60–100 years. According to Erikson’s Theory of Psychosocial Development, old age is the stage in which individuals assess the quality of their lives. In reflecting on their lives, people in this age group develop a feeling of integrity if deciding that their lives were successful or a feeling of despair if evaluation of one’s life indicates a failure to achieve goals.

BUT WHAT ABOUT SEEING THESE ADULTS PLAYING AS CHILDREN AND BEING FREE MINDED AND ACTING FREE…

That’s the definition of happiness:

breaking all the rules that we have been learned by our social interactions

and

becoming ageless.

Even if we live in a physical world and getting older in a physical meaning;

we actually belong to an emotional world which our thoughts about ages don’t count. We are basicly free to shape our lives without thinking and also blaming our age.

There is no calendar of feelings.

There is no boundaries and rules.

In psychology, Adler became famous by his definitions that he gave:

Adler refused to limit psychology to analysis, making the important point that aspirations look forward and do not limit themselves to unconscious drives or to childhood experiences. He also originated the concepts of lifestyle (1929 — he defined “lifestyle” as an individual’s characteristic approach to life, in facing problems) and of self-image, a concept that influenced management under the heading of work-life balance.

Carl Gustav Jung made contributions to personal development with his concept of individuation, which he saw as the drive of the individual to achieve the wholeness and balance of the Self.

Whatever the nature of his Dream, a young man has the developmental task of giving it greater definition and finding ways to live it out. It makes a great difference in his growth whether his initial life structure is consonant with and infused by the Dream, or opposed to it. If the Dream remains unconnected to his life it may simply die, and with it his sense of aliveness and purpose.

All theoretical and scientific explanations stop in a point that:

LIFE BELONGS US.

WE SHAPE OUR LIVES.

WE SHAPE OUR AGES.

AND BEING HAPPY IS TOTALLY RELATED TO OUR OWN PERSPECTIVE OF LIFE.

If you don’t have (or even if you have) physical disabilities; WALK-RUN-JUMP AND LAUGH ENOUGH TO HEAR YOUR SOUL.

SNOW AND SUN, RAIN AND WIND are just for us. All we have to do is having fun of them with no thinking about our age.

I don’t tell you to act like children:

I suggest you TO FEEL AND BE HAPPY LIKE CHILDREN.

 

PLAYGROUNDS vs PLAYSTATIONS

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I remember those years that we didn’t have cellphones, computers, playstations and so on…

The years that we were more innocent and aware of the world “nature” we live in.

TECHNOLOGY was simplier in those years, and it was based on our real needs… Each decade gave us other forms of technology which the main purpose was communication…

The human species’ use of technology began with the conversion of natural resources into simple tools. The prehistorical discovery of the ability of control fire increased the available sources of food and the invention of the wheel helped humans in travelling in and controlling their environment. Recent technological developments, including the printing press, the telephone and the Internet, have lessened physical barriers to communication and allowed humans to interact freely on a global scale.

The late cultural critic Neil Postman distinguished tool-using societies from technological societies and, finally, what he called “technopolies,” that is, societies that are dominated by the ideology of technological and scientific progress, to the exclusion or harm of other cultural practices, values and world-views.

The implementation of technology influences the value of a society by changing expectations and realities.

The implementation of technology is also influenced by values.

1- Viewing the universe as a collection of parts, (like a machine), that can be individually analyzed and understood. This is a form of reductionism that is rare nowadays. However, the “neo-mechanistic world view” holds that nothing in the universe cannot be understood by the human intellect. Also, while all things are greater than the sum of their parts (e.g., even if we consider nothing more than the information involved in their combination), in principle, even this excess must eventually be understood by human intelligence. That is, no DIVINE or VITAL principle or essence is involved.

2- EFFICIENCY : A value, originally applied only to machines, but now applied to all aspects of society, so that each element is expected to attain a higher and higher percentage of its maximal possible performance, output, or ability.

3- SOCIAL PROGRESS: The belief that there is such a thing as social progress, and that, in the main, it is beneficent. Before the Industrial Revolution, and the subsequent explosion of technology, almost all societies believed in a cyclical theory of social movement and, indeed, of all history and the universe. This was, obviously, based on the cyclicity of the seasons, and an agricultural economy’s and society’s strong ties to that cyclicity. Since much of the world is closer to their agricultural roots, they are still much more amenable to cyclicity than progress in history.

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Technology provides an understanding, and an appreciation for the world around us.

Most modern technological processes produce unwanted byproducts in addition to the desired products, which is known as industrial waste and pollution.

While most material waste is re-used in the industrial process, many forms are released into the environment, with negative environmental side effects, such as pollution and lack of sustainability. Different social and political systems establish different balances between the value they place on additional goods versus the disvalues of waste products and pollution.

Some technologies are designed specifically with the environment in mind, but most are designed first for economic or ergonomic effects. Historically, the value of a clean environment and more efficient productive processes has been the result of an increase in the wealth of society, because once people are able to provide for their basic needs, they are able to focus on less-tangible goods such as clean air and water.

Humanity at the moment may be compared to a colony of bacteria in a Petri dish with a constant food supply: with no way to remove the wastes of their metabolism, the bacteria eventually poison themselves.

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I MISS THE DAYS WHEN CHILDREN WERE PLAYING OUTSIDE THEIR HOME, SCREAMING TO THEIR MOTHERS BEGGING FOR 10 MORE MINUTES…

I MISS THE DAYS WHEN TREES WERE TALLER THAN OUR APARTMENTS; I MISS THE TREES ACTUALLY…

I MISS CHILDRENS GAMES IN THE GARDENS INSTEAD OF PLAYSTATIONS OR COMPUTER BASED ISOLATIONS.

THE JOY OF RUNNING, WALKING AND REAL HUMAN COMMUNICATION…

I MISS UNIQUE NORMS AND VALUES THAT ALL SOCITIES HAD ONCE.

SEEING AND TALKING EACHOTHER; THE DEFINITION OF LOVE AND RESPECT.

CHILDREN AND FAMILIES…

To BE and To LOVE

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I was living my hell in others panaromic paradises…

All my pain and suffer taught me to fight against my own damons.

And finally i reached to a level to succeed to be alive and to be more ‘human’.

I learned how important it was to be than to have.

‘Importance of my soul instead of my aristotelian logic’

Then I learned to love ME… too.

It was a long process and a real big deal for me. I had to define my priorities and needs in the first place. But i shouldn’t be selfish though.

It’s all about definitions and implications. It’s also about reading between the lines written by your heart to your eyes.

The world was much more than we could see or touch.

It took days and even weeks to internalize listening the symphony of the nature around me. Wind and rain were just a beginning. Step by step ears start to focus on the melody of stars and sun… Clouds start to dance with the rythm of the time and life restarts again for those new born souls.  First you feel like elementary student; everything has to be learned from the beginning. Colors, textures, sounds and emotions are going to be reshaped by new experiences. It can be defined as experimental existantialism. Each and every move that you make through moments you become more able to feel your existence than you did in your past.

First, you stop being a part of the materialist clan in which you used to live… Shopping means nothing to you anymore, and most commonly starts to be seen as a ‘ waste of money and time’.  You start to think that the idea of “less is more” could be your bottom line and  you realize that you already have too much to even share. Then you start questioning why you stay in that town, or in that job, from a point of view of being happy. Here comes the definition of happiness. Each definition has its own root, which is born in your inner self, when you were just a child.

Think about your childhood dreams and joys. When you had that kinda freedom to draw your own world. Those days when your were trying to give an answer to the question of “which do you prefer? flying or being invisible”. It was something so important for you and for your friends. They were pushing your decision making power through your character if they could be your friends or not. It was just that simple.  Most common answer was ‘flying’.

Now think about flying…

When we grew up, we lost our innocence.

Actually we didn’t loose it my friends. We just kept it as a secret to protect our hearts. Finally this decision that we have been taught in our whole life, made us a little bit solid and dark.

That darkness can be illuminated by peace and love. All you need is to make a peace with your own soul and love you own dreams.