SHARE HAPPINESS AND LOVE THAT YOU HAVE INSIDE

tumblr_mfehprnANV1rs9omco1_500No matter how far away we fall from our dreams,

God gives us another day with a full brightening landscape for our souls, just to make sure that we are going to try again.

..and again..and again…

There will be no limit to try for our goals in order to find our happiness.

We are the only creatures knowing the meaning of it. We are the ones who can describe it even with the many different vocabulary but still using happiness as a life adaptor.

Happiness is a connection between a soul and the life of its. It’s something more necessary than other cliches.

Because we all know that ‘staying alive’ will not be enough to ‘feel alive’.

Many people coming from many different backgrounds; wll still defend their own happy moments in ordar to describe how they feel in a new stituation whilw meeting each other.

It can look like a pschological experiment but it is true that when you are unconfortable in a position; you will automaticly remember your happy memories to survive there.

happinessIMAGEEven that coffe in the morning or your breakfast with your family will be rapidly becoming your last precious moments in your life with no background stiories that you had too tho.

In any moment that you feel unconfortable within, your brain will collobarate in the same path remindering you how happy you were before.

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Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging fromcontentment to intense joy.

A variety ofbiological, psychological,religious and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources.

Various research groups, including positive psychology,

endeavor to apply the scientific method to answer questions about what “happiness” is, and how it might be attained.

Philosophers and religious thinkers often define happiness in terms of living a good life, or flourishing,

rather than simply as an emotion. Happiness in this sense was used to translate the Greek Eudaimonia,

and is still used in virtue ethics.

Happiness economics suggests that measures of public happiness

should be used to supplement more traditional economic measures when evaluating the success of public policy.

Even though there are many scientific explanations about happiness itself;

we should be just aware of its being a God-given gift,

and it is also about appreciating ‘good’ moments that we have in your lives…

love-happiness-girl-heart-valentines-1920x1200We have so much love we have in our souls. We need to share it as much as we can too.

Remember when you step by a street worker, saying him just a little ‘Hi!…

You would be able to see him happier then that one minute ago.

This is simply ‘HAPPINESS’…

WHICH I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT JUST LOVE AFFAIRS AND SUCH.

I’M TALKIN ABOUT LOVING YOUR “CO-LIVER”, THAT YOU DONT EVEN KNOW MANY OF THEM PERSONALLY…

I’M TALKIN ABOUT SHARING HAPPINESS WITHOUT WAITING A BAD TIME COMES TO MAKE YOU REMEMBER HOW HAPPY YOU WERE BEFORE…

6418B36294E4419DAAFEC15E6F03BC57.ashxTODAY CAN BE THAT DAY YOU REALIZE AND YOU FEEL HOW HAPPY YOU ARE;

AND HOW MUCH HAPPINES YOU HAVE INSIDE

AND YOU ARE ABLE TO SHARE WITH ALL PEOPLE AROUND.

Just like an angel comes and shows…

Bacuse we all know that motivation makes life easier;

Motivations direct and energize behavior, while emotions provide the affective component to motivation, positive or negative.

In the early 1970s, Paul Ekman and colleagues began a line of research that suggests that many emotions are universal.

He found evidence that humans share at least five basic emotions: fear, sadness, HAPPINESS, anger, and disgust.

Social emotions evidently evolved to motivate social behaviors that were adaptive in the EEA.

For example, spite seems to work against the individual but it can establish an individual’s reputation as someone to be feared.

Shame and pride can motivate behaviors that help one maintain one’s standing in a community, and self-esteem is one’s estimate of one’s status.

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Think Pink & Photography

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Photographing keeps people overthinking their life and having bad feelings.

It is an important fact that photographing gives a chance to re-create our world by our hearts perspective

and gives us a positive approach to our surrounding world.

It gives ‘peace’ and a real awakening through trying to see different and beautiful things surrounding us.

That attention to the beauty gives us the ability to built a better world even if it is just ours.

We can not change what we have, but we can re-define what we see and especialy with no borders that others put infront of  our eyes.

One can find ownself in a real ugly place,

but playing with the lights, colors and perspective;

one can create a better one just by own inner power to see differently.

We can rapidly change our understandings by photographing them in a different mode.

Focusing into a small detail, can improve the big picture.

Especially with the effects that we can use by our cellphones, we can be our own “painters”.

We can paint the world by our emotions we put into.

I learned years ago that all we see is what we feel.

If you are happy enough to overestimate what you have, even it is a really tiny detail;

it can be grown by your soul and by your heart.

Easy: THE IDEA OF ‘THINK PINK’…

You can have more than what you see…

Seeing beyond your eyes…

CONNECT to LIFE

206821_1996858409524_1485397876_2297753_1127141_nSome mornings I miss my childhood or maybe even my whole life before “technology” so much;

living with no attachment to the machines like computers, cellphones or even internet…

I miss those times especially when the first thing I have to do is to check my e-mails,

writing notes down on my agenda, and to decide how I’m going to use my day planning by every single hour that I have.

Having no coincidences and suprises in my daily life is breaking me apart…

The hurting part is not living with deadlines or hurry;

just this slavery to our computers and smartphones that we have.

Being unable to use and feel the time and being totally away from that talent ‘to keep in mind’ what we have to do.

Most of my friends forgot to use an agenda; they lost their understanding of calendar and time because of their smartphones.

Life became something that when you hear an alarm informing  you… Something that we connect instead of live it…

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Watches are becoming useless and mostly unimportant to have,

or just a symbol of wealth instead of being masters of ‘time’; they loose their meaning day  by day,

because people prefers to check their smartphones and they trust them more than anything else.

watchSo companies try different and joyful ways to make us remember the meaning of watches.

But even they know that watch means ‘money’ not time anymore…

Same issue is a problem also with agendas and such…

agenda1I remember the days that people were so excited to buy a brand new agenda each year. 

The importance of the papers quality, the joy to write things down…

“trusting to your own handwriting and trying to write as good as you can”…

In those days, your agenda was your symbol of your charactesrand anything to note down was important.

For example we used to take notes about our friends birthdays, we were checking the days, counting them, waiting for them with no alert needed.

Honestly, I still keep an agenda and I still wear my watches; I still love papers and pencils. But I think each day I’m becoming more “extinct”.

Everyone is asking me ‘why’ I still buy them or use them as we have our cellphones and so on instead…

And my answer is:

I prefer being as human as I can 🙂

I PREFER TO LIVE, INSTEAD OF TO CONNECT TO LIFE.

Being HAPPY and Living LIKE A CHILD

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Psychologist divide our life in periods calling them ‘critical periods in development’:

*Toddlerhood:

 

Babies between ages of one and two are called toddlers. In this stage, intelligence is demonstrated through the use of symbols, language use matures, and memory and imagination are developed. Thinking is done in a non-logical, nonreversible manner. Egocentric thinking predominates.

*Early childhood:

When children attend preschool, they broaden their social horizons and become more engaged with those around them. Impulses are channeled into fantasies, which leaves the task of the caretaker to balance eagerness for pursuing adventure, creativity and self-expression with the development of responsibility. If caretakers are properly encouraging and consistently disciplinary, children are more likely to develop positive self-esteem while becoming more responsible, and will follow through on assigned activities.

*Adolescence:

Adolescence is the period of life between the onset of puberty and the full commitment to an adult social role, such as worker, parent, and/or citizen. It is the period known for the formation of personal and social identity and the discovery of moral purpose. Intelligence is demonstrated through the logical use of symbols related to abstract concepts and formal reasoning. A return to egocentric thought often occurs early in the period.

*Early adulthood:

The person must learn how to form intimate relationships, both in friendship and love. The development of this skill relies on the resolution of other stages. It may be hard to establish intimacy if one has not developed trust or a sense of identity. If this skill is not learned the alternative is alienation, isolation, a fear of commitment, and the inability to depend on others.

*Middle age:

Middle adulthood generally refers to the period between ages 40 to 60. During this period, middle-aged adults experience a conflict between generativity and stagnation. They may either feel a sense of contributing to society, the next generation or their immediate community or a sense of purposelessness.

*Old age:

This stage generally refers to those over 60–100 years. According to Erikson’s Theory of Psychosocial Development, old age is the stage in which individuals assess the quality of their lives. In reflecting on their lives, people in this age group develop a feeling of integrity if deciding that their lives were successful or a feeling of despair if evaluation of one’s life indicates a failure to achieve goals.

BUT WHAT ABOUT SEEING THESE ADULTS PLAYING AS CHILDREN AND BEING FREE MINDED AND ACTING FREE…

That’s the definition of happiness:

breaking all the rules that we have been learned by our social interactions

and

becoming ageless.

Even if we live in a physical world and getting older in a physical meaning;

we actually belong to an emotional world which our thoughts about ages don’t count. We are basicly free to shape our lives without thinking and also blaming our age.

There is no calendar of feelings.

There is no boundaries and rules.

In psychology, Adler became famous by his definitions that he gave:

Adler refused to limit psychology to analysis, making the important point that aspirations look forward and do not limit themselves to unconscious drives or to childhood experiences. He also originated the concepts of lifestyle (1929 — he defined “lifestyle” as an individual’s characteristic approach to life, in facing problems) and of self-image, a concept that influenced management under the heading of work-life balance.

Carl Gustav Jung made contributions to personal development with his concept of individuation, which he saw as the drive of the individual to achieve the wholeness and balance of the Self.

Whatever the nature of his Dream, a young man has the developmental task of giving it greater definition and finding ways to live it out. It makes a great difference in his growth whether his initial life structure is consonant with and infused by the Dream, or opposed to it. If the Dream remains unconnected to his life it may simply die, and with it his sense of aliveness and purpose.

All theoretical and scientific explanations stop in a point that:

LIFE BELONGS US.

WE SHAPE OUR LIVES.

WE SHAPE OUR AGES.

AND BEING HAPPY IS TOTALLY RELATED TO OUR OWN PERSPECTIVE OF LIFE.

If you don’t have (or even if you have) physical disabilities; WALK-RUN-JUMP AND LAUGH ENOUGH TO HEAR YOUR SOUL.

SNOW AND SUN, RAIN AND WIND are just for us. All we have to do is having fun of them with no thinking about our age.

I don’t tell you to act like children:

I suggest you TO FEEL AND BE HAPPY LIKE CHILDREN.

 

The Mirror of Pride has a blinding Light

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Pride is the trap within which One may lose everything.

Overestimation of one’s self may reduce the grand beauties of one’s great world…

So unfortunate that vanity becomes the deep prison within us…entrapped in a prison made of the bars of shades that one has drawn…  

Exagerating life events somehow shapes one’s own agony, unintentionally;

Exagerating one’s self importance and missing happiness in the tiny details is the blinding of one’s self and it is so devastating.

 

One is one’s own dangerous and life-long enemy.

The scores of one’s life races and losses are the ink spots which had leaked from one’s fingers.

That ink which comes into being within the veins of pride, flows down one’s skin and will never be cleansed with water and soap unless one cannot raise his consciousness and heal his soul.

 

Pride breeds egoism. The soul in search of love will then be buried into absolute solitude in time. Loneliness follows in silence; the eyes will search for others to blame among the emotionally crowded isolation.

To be able to love someone, some people assume that it is necessary to give up on one’s self; conversely, the aim is not to dispense with one’s self, Master, it is to add up to one’s self!

 

LUCK AND HAPPINESS


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A person should create his own sun in the cloudy days.

One should fight for happiness without giving in to demoralization, without losing his hope.

To bow to pressure in silence increases the pain and sorrow in the end…

 

Not everyone is born in the same plain with the same luck.

But what does luck mean in the final analysis?

Happiness does not necessarily increase when one is born among gold;

nor may making a quilt of newspapers on one’s self necessarily cause unhappiness.

Money does not make a person more alive.

Then what does it mean to be fortunate?

Apart from the assumptions of having wealth or a family, what makes one more fortunate than the other?

Us, our own selves… Being who we are.

 

How developed is our ability to challenge problems or our view of life.

For someone who has lost his car, enjoying a walk without missing the vehicle may show how lucky he is in his personality.

For some person with disability, the determination to learn playing basketball on a wheelchair

or simply the ambition to cling to life, we can talk of having a fortunate presence in life.

When we become invincible, life gives us choices.

To learn to be alive without burying one’s elf in darkness is a must.

Otherwise we lose our colors in darkness.

 

Being a child means imagination and perseverance. Desperation is not inborn,

it is learned during growing up; desperation is the only sign of aging.

We forget how the very small things can create great contentment.

For how many of us is cotton candy a fountain of joy?

Aging is seeing only mud on a rainy day;

Lucky are those who will watch the rain drops!

Still..

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i passed through many lifes till now
i dreamed i failed and i walked again
but i loved and listened to my heart eventually
we were never wrong and never hurt anyone

i was born in cold winter when snow was dancing
that was our first fight against nature we belong
never stopped living and none back off by crying
waited to be loved so long

life never became easier while i was growing
i used to be forgotten in dark eras come along
so my heart helped me believing in being no alone
we made choices in each step that we called strong

too much sun and too much moon we shared
questioning each loneliness that we had
but loved anyway without any question in our head
sometimes they hurt us its true
but sometimes we had seen love coming from them

no prescription was given to make it easier
we tried each and every single soul we met
while years were passing by
we stayed stick our in hope for to be loved

then we met with one special soul sliding through worlds misery
we were the only ones seeing his beauty in any sentence he speaks
we wished for his dreams come through and sharing his destiny
we felt that so much pain had been broken his wings
but we believed that he was still able to fly

we questioned what could be done eventually
but he was not ready to believe in a new reality
love was not enough for make him feel alive properly
there was always something making him cry silently

nothing was good enough to make him believe in a brand new episode
a great and a joyfull era crossing his mirrors which belong his lost
his potential was kept in secret for many years which he passed alone
noone was able to feel him deeper inside as he needed for

but
we still keep watching him in the dark streets of his broken heart
we still believe in his success coming by his clarifying his view
and
we still love him no matter how far he can be burned by himself in his artificial penalty.

Emine Yesim Aydin