Living with SELF…

self-reflection

“”Human self-reflection is the capacity of humans to exercise introspection and the willingness to learn more about their fundamental nature, purpose and essence. The earliest historical records demonstrate the great interest which humanity has had in itself. Human self-reflection invariably leads to inquiry into the human condition and the essence of humankind as a whole.

Human self-reflection is related to the philosophy of consciousness, the topic of awareness, consciousness in general and the philosophy of mind…”

WHAT ABOUT TALKING ABOUT OWN SELF AS “HIM/HER/THEM” … ?

WHAT ABOUT THE IDEA OF A “GROUP OF PERSONALITIES” THAT LIVE WITH?…

self-reflection-steven-michaelInstead of being just one single person living in a body,

we are always talking about our other sides according in situtions that we have to handle….

We generally have two main faces: one with heart and one with brain; which describes our emotional side -emotional reactions- and our logical point of  view -mental bottom lines-.

Furthermore,

we have always an explanation for both ways…

But how we build up our definitions on ourselves?

or

why we need to define different personalities of ourselves?

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Answer is simple: we live against our ownselves, with no inner acceptance of being “me”.

and

we need someone to blame accordingly…

Knowing the possible choices, remembering the past, paying still our old bills, never forgetting or forgiving our own mistakes…

Also a “self-proving” that we are alone in the world – especially if we had a bad childhood under the name of “having no friends”-…

Admit that you talk to yourself when you are alone in your car or house or even walking in a park.

You keep track of what you are always doing or thinking.

Sometimes you are not  good enough to listen to your own thoughts and wishes, so you start to talk to God.

ADMIT IT.

THAT’S BEING HUMAN.

NOT WANTING TO WALK ALONE…

That need of yours empowers your self realization, awareness and explanations.

And you know so perfectly that you are the cruelest judge of the world; you don’t accept any defense or apology.

BUT PLEASE GET USED TO LIVE WITH YOURSELF BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE TO ENJOY.

matc3adas-sierra-hug-my-self-red-clay-10All actions belong to you. All feelings and wishes came from your heart. All your past gave you an unique lesson, you failed or succeeded. If you feel failed TRY AGAIN.

NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF.

AND…

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PLEASE DO NOT LET “BEING AWARE OF YOURSELF” LEAVE YOU ALONE.

Prisons

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The prison that is the most difficult to be released from is that of one’s own made. It imprisons one to such depths that one may forget how he or she had actually entered. Whilst passing the time with strong but silent shouts, one day and quite suddenly, one realizes that this dungeon was the created by one’s own walls…

 

All restrictions are self-made and all are for one’s own self. 

There, one can neither manage to leave nor can one allow others in.

The worst part is chasing all those who wish to love one, and keeping all those outside whom one loves… 

Desperation arrives just at that moment, the moment when one realizes that this is a a system and not a vacation.

People have their own lies within their own prisons. 

One does not make unclear apologies or create defenses for one’s self; one has already made clear explanations within one’s heart. 

Epitome: destiny… 

Destiny is the only salvation through one’s imprisonment. 

IF THEY ARE NOT THE CAUSE OF THIS DEFEAT, THE PRICE IS NOT A PUNISHMENT BUT THE “FATE”.

However, in one’s life journey, there are no simple processes which may be simplified as destiny. The “learned helplessness” of devastating defeats may not be simplified as coincidences…

When all is processing with perfect harmony with each other in a flow, one single stone does fall on one’s path and turns upside down all the balances that one had created meticulously.

One is not forced to start a new life with every stone that one stumbles on…

 

“TO RISE WITH THE LARK”

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To get up early is so beautiful when it is not an obligation…

To rise early not out of necessity, but as a habit, and accepting this as the most important start of life, to give shape to the days accordingly…

If one loves to start a day,

One will feel the beauty of being alive unexceptionally and trustingly…

Human beings are actually encoded in an archaic system from those days when one left his cave with the sun rise. This coding is still active. More importantly, for all those people who complian for not having enough time to accomplish things, to rise early is the definitive solution. “Early” meaning TO RISE WITH THE LARK.

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Nothing is more “human” than coming into action with the first rays of the sun.

One feels the state of belonging to the nature and grasps this belonging so clearly!

I advise all those people who falsely think themselves incapable of waking up in a vigorous state, that they should readjust their movements to the “sundial”. This means returning home when the sun is setting, sleeping accompanied by the stars and becoming aware of the quilt not as a warm escapade but as a heavy cover…

Although the present habit has become to start the day with an alarm clock, leaving this imprisonment, this authority of time over us, and returning to the archaic rhythm of cohabitation of humans with nature is my dream. Just like what I am experiencing lately…

Because human beings have been taught to memorize everything within structures, I feel that these structures have become our own burdens.

When the alarm rings and its awful sound disturb one’s peace, the meaning of waking up to a new beginning is changed.

I propose that we should not be at peace with the alarm clock, set it right and wake up under its command.

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I suggest and I offer the sunny radiance of not having a clock.  If not on the first morning, surely on the next days, waking with the rhythm of the nature without any alarm clock buzzing its way through the ears and into the brain will be welcome by your inner self; it will become a new pleasure in your life, rebelling against the resistant and tough fixity of imprisonment that life has forced you and enjoying a flexibility, a freedom however tiny it may seem at first!

SHARE HAPPINESS AND LOVE THAT YOU HAVE INSIDE

tumblr_mfehprnANV1rs9omco1_500No matter how far away we fall from our dreams,

God gives us another day with a full brightening landscape for our souls, just to make sure that we are going to try again.

..and again..and again…

There will be no limit to try for our goals in order to find our happiness.

We are the only creatures knowing the meaning of it. We are the ones who can describe it even with the many different vocabulary but still using happiness as a life adaptor.

Happiness is a connection between a soul and the life of its. It’s something more necessary than other cliches.

Because we all know that ‘staying alive’ will not be enough to ‘feel alive’.

Many people coming from many different backgrounds; wll still defend their own happy moments in ordar to describe how they feel in a new stituation whilw meeting each other.

It can look like a pschological experiment but it is true that when you are unconfortable in a position; you will automaticly remember your happy memories to survive there.

happinessIMAGEEven that coffe in the morning or your breakfast with your family will be rapidly becoming your last precious moments in your life with no background stiories that you had too tho.

In any moment that you feel unconfortable within, your brain will collobarate in the same path remindering you how happy you were before.

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Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging fromcontentment to intense joy.

A variety ofbiological, psychological,religious and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources.

Various research groups, including positive psychology,

endeavor to apply the scientific method to answer questions about what “happiness” is, and how it might be attained.

Philosophers and religious thinkers often define happiness in terms of living a good life, or flourishing,

rather than simply as an emotion. Happiness in this sense was used to translate the Greek Eudaimonia,

and is still used in virtue ethics.

Happiness economics suggests that measures of public happiness

should be used to supplement more traditional economic measures when evaluating the success of public policy.

Even though there are many scientific explanations about happiness itself;

we should be just aware of its being a God-given gift,

and it is also about appreciating ‘good’ moments that we have in your lives…

love-happiness-girl-heart-valentines-1920x1200We have so much love we have in our souls. We need to share it as much as we can too.

Remember when you step by a street worker, saying him just a little ‘Hi!…

You would be able to see him happier then that one minute ago.

This is simply ‘HAPPINESS’…

WHICH I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT JUST LOVE AFFAIRS AND SUCH.

I’M TALKIN ABOUT LOVING YOUR “CO-LIVER”, THAT YOU DONT EVEN KNOW MANY OF THEM PERSONALLY…

I’M TALKIN ABOUT SHARING HAPPINESS WITHOUT WAITING A BAD TIME COMES TO MAKE YOU REMEMBER HOW HAPPY YOU WERE BEFORE…

6418B36294E4419DAAFEC15E6F03BC57.ashxTODAY CAN BE THAT DAY YOU REALIZE AND YOU FEEL HOW HAPPY YOU ARE;

AND HOW MUCH HAPPINES YOU HAVE INSIDE

AND YOU ARE ABLE TO SHARE WITH ALL PEOPLE AROUND.

Just like an angel comes and shows…

Bacuse we all know that motivation makes life easier;

Motivations direct and energize behavior, while emotions provide the affective component to motivation, positive or negative.

In the early 1970s, Paul Ekman and colleagues began a line of research that suggests that many emotions are universal.

He found evidence that humans share at least five basic emotions: fear, sadness, HAPPINESS, anger, and disgust.

Social emotions evidently evolved to motivate social behaviors that were adaptive in the EEA.

For example, spite seems to work against the individual but it can establish an individual’s reputation as someone to be feared.

Shame and pride can motivate behaviors that help one maintain one’s standing in a community, and self-esteem is one’s estimate of one’s status.

Think Pink & Photography

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Photographing keeps people overthinking their life and having bad feelings.

It is an important fact that photographing gives a chance to re-create our world by our hearts perspective

and gives us a positive approach to our surrounding world.

It gives ‘peace’ and a real awakening through trying to see different and beautiful things surrounding us.

That attention to the beauty gives us the ability to built a better world even if it is just ours.

We can not change what we have, but we can re-define what we see and especialy with no borders that others put infront of  our eyes.

One can find ownself in a real ugly place,

but playing with the lights, colors and perspective;

one can create a better one just by own inner power to see differently.

We can rapidly change our understandings by photographing them in a different mode.

Focusing into a small detail, can improve the big picture.

Especially with the effects that we can use by our cellphones, we can be our own “painters”.

We can paint the world by our emotions we put into.

I learned years ago that all we see is what we feel.

If you are happy enough to overestimate what you have, even it is a really tiny detail;

it can be grown by your soul and by your heart.

Easy: THE IDEA OF ‘THINK PINK’…

You can have more than what you see…

Seeing beyond your eyes…

CONNECT to LIFE

206821_1996858409524_1485397876_2297753_1127141_nSome mornings I miss my childhood or maybe even my whole life before “technology” so much;

living with no attachment to the machines like computers, cellphones or even internet…

I miss those times especially when the first thing I have to do is to check my e-mails,

writing notes down on my agenda, and to decide how I’m going to use my day planning by every single hour that I have.

Having no coincidences and suprises in my daily life is breaking me apart…

The hurting part is not living with deadlines or hurry;

just this slavery to our computers and smartphones that we have.

Being unable to use and feel the time and being totally away from that talent ‘to keep in mind’ what we have to do.

Most of my friends forgot to use an agenda; they lost their understanding of calendar and time because of their smartphones.

Life became something that when you hear an alarm informing  you… Something that we connect instead of live it…

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Watches are becoming useless and mostly unimportant to have,

or just a symbol of wealth instead of being masters of ‘time’; they loose their meaning day  by day,

because people prefers to check their smartphones and they trust them more than anything else.

watchSo companies try different and joyful ways to make us remember the meaning of watches.

But even they know that watch means ‘money’ not time anymore…

Same issue is a problem also with agendas and such…

agenda1I remember the days that people were so excited to buy a brand new agenda each year. 

The importance of the papers quality, the joy to write things down…

“trusting to your own handwriting and trying to write as good as you can”…

In those days, your agenda was your symbol of your charactesrand anything to note down was important.

For example we used to take notes about our friends birthdays, we were checking the days, counting them, waiting for them with no alert needed.

Honestly, I still keep an agenda and I still wear my watches; I still love papers and pencils. But I think each day I’m becoming more “extinct”.

Everyone is asking me ‘why’ I still buy them or use them as we have our cellphones and so on instead…

And my answer is:

I prefer being as human as I can :)

I PREFER TO LIVE, INSTEAD OF TO CONNECT TO LIFE.

Being HAPPY and Living LIKE A CHILD

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Psychologist divide our life in periods calling them ‘critical periods in development’:

*Toddlerhood:

 

Babies between ages of one and two are called toddlers. In this stage, intelligence is demonstrated through the use of symbols, language use matures, and memory and imagination are developed. Thinking is done in a non-logical, nonreversible manner. Egocentric thinking predominates.

*Early childhood:

When children attend preschool, they broaden their social horizons and become more engaged with those around them. Impulses are channeled into fantasies, which leaves the task of the caretaker to balance eagerness for pursuing adventure, creativity and self-expression with the development of responsibility. If caretakers are properly encouraging and consistently disciplinary, children are more likely to develop positive self-esteem while becoming more responsible, and will follow through on assigned activities.

*Adolescence:

Adolescence is the period of life between the onset of puberty and the full commitment to an adult social role, such as worker, parent, and/or citizen. It is the period known for the formation of personal and social identity and the discovery of moral purpose. Intelligence is demonstrated through the logical use of symbols related to abstract concepts and formal reasoning. A return to egocentric thought often occurs early in the period.

*Early adulthood:

The person must learn how to form intimate relationships, both in friendship and love. The development of this skill relies on the resolution of other stages. It may be hard to establish intimacy if one has not developed trust or a sense of identity. If this skill is not learned the alternative is alienation, isolation, a fear of commitment, and the inability to depend on others.

*Middle age:

Middle adulthood generally refers to the period between ages 40 to 60. During this period, middle-aged adults experience a conflict between generativity and stagnation. They may either feel a sense of contributing to society, the next generation or their immediate community or a sense of purposelessness.

*Old age:

This stage generally refers to those over 60–100 years. According to Erikson’s Theory of Psychosocial Development, old age is the stage in which individuals assess the quality of their lives. In reflecting on their lives, people in this age group develop a feeling of integrity if deciding that their lives were successful or a feeling of despair if evaluation of one’s life indicates a failure to achieve goals.

BUT WHAT ABOUT SEEING THESE ADULTS PLAYING AS CHILDREN AND BEING FREE MINDED AND ACTING FREE…

That’s the definition of happiness:

breaking all the rules that we have been learned by our social interactions

and

becoming ageless.

Even if we live in a physical world and getting older in a physical meaning;

we actually belong to an emotional world which our thoughts about ages don’t count. We are basicly free to shape our lives without thinking and also blaming our age.

There is no calendar of feelings.

There is no boundaries and rules.

In psychology, Adler became famous by his definitions that he gave:

Adler refused to limit psychology to analysis, making the important point that aspirations look forward and do not limit themselves to unconscious drives or to childhood experiences. He also originated the concepts of lifestyle (1929 — he defined “lifestyle” as an individual’s characteristic approach to life, in facing problems) and of self-image, a concept that influenced management under the heading of work-life balance.

Carl Gustav Jung made contributions to personal development with his concept of individuation, which he saw as the drive of the individual to achieve the wholeness and balance of the Self.

Whatever the nature of his Dream, a young man has the developmental task of giving it greater definition and finding ways to live it out. It makes a great difference in his growth whether his initial life structure is consonant with and infused by the Dream, or opposed to it. If the Dream remains unconnected to his life it may simply die, and with it his sense of aliveness and purpose.

All theoretical and scientific explanations stop in a point that:

LIFE BELONGS US.

WE SHAPE OUR LIVES.

WE SHAPE OUR AGES.

AND BEING HAPPY IS TOTALLY RELATED TO OUR OWN PERSPECTIVE OF LIFE.

If you don’t have (or even if you have) physical disabilities; WALK-RUN-JUMP AND LAUGH ENOUGH TO HEAR YOUR SOUL.

SNOW AND SUN, RAIN AND WIND are just for us. All we have to do is having fun of them with no thinking about our age.

I don’t tell you to act like children:

I suggest you TO FEEL AND BE HAPPY LIKE CHILDREN.